Very recently I found myself aka “Craft-O-Maniac” on a gossip forum (via my YouTube channel), and like a curious idiot I looked again last night on “Mother’s Day.” I thought for sure that the gossip again “bullying” about me was removed because I hadn’t seen it when I shared this on Instagram about a week ago. Well the gossip was still there (as of last night) and there was more… someone added a picture of the “White Chicks” from the movie saying that I looked like them, going along with someone else’s comment about how I look transgender only they said transvestite. I was hurt a little, I won’t lie. I mean why is it that us humans hang onto the hurt and negativity more? I will tell you why? Because we are just that “We are Human” but more then that, the majority of us I believe give other humans that benefit of the doubt. Meaning we don’t look at someone, “a complete stranger even” and think they are a jerk. We feel that if someone is having a rough day or in a funk, they aren’t always that way. Therefore, we don’t peg people to be bullies…. so when they are, we are in shock and that’s why I believe the hate sticks more then the love (at least for me).

This gossip “HATE” forum also talked about my kids being weird (OH’ HELLLLL NO!), that all I do is shop (thrift shop and most of its a credit I earn from a antique store I do work for UGH!), and that I have horrendous eyebrows, my voice is annoying, and I look like a transgender. These words hit like a knife when I first read/discovered them. It’s a horrible thing to create a gossip forum that in my opinion is 100% bullying. I mean its on the world wide web (www) so anyone can sign up and read and partake of this hateful, disgusting place. The forum is called “The Gossip Bakery” and there are more just like this one out there.  

These types of forums are horrible, in fact just about a month and half ago my teenager was telling me that some kids from his Jr. High created a Pine View Middle School gossip forum to talk trash and make fun of other students. Well as the rumor mill goes, it got around the school and to the V. Principal and Principal, who took action and quickly had the forum shut down. This kind of bullying is everywhere in life; schools, work, church, social media, I get it, but it needs to once again be shared more, and more awareness of it needs to be out there. 

You see, I take Lexapro and have for several years now. It helps with my anxiety and depression. To this day I still have low days and since I am not perfect, I have forgotten for 3-4 days in a row to take my pills. I always can tell when I have missed them and need them, because those awful horrible thoughts creep back in straight from Satan himself. When bullying happens and it happens to those of us who are already fighting a war inside, it can be very traumatic to the point where some have actually taken their lives… 

What if on my lowest of low days I stumbled across this gossip forum and read these things? What if that was all it took? I cry and weep thinking about it, and the hurt that it causes people, “children”, “teens”, even me. 

Please, lets all make sure that our children know and are taught; love, tolerance, and acceptance of others. Every walk of life, shape, style and race. When we don’t teach our children these things, then we are potentially going to raise closed minded children who will become bullies young and old. Please lets educate and teach our children so they don’t bully.

I want you all to know that I am fine, I really am.. I laughed a little at the image of white chicks and even at the transvestite comment. I am here sharing this to bring even more awareness to this toxic situation that is becoming more and more saturated in our society. It makes me cry knowing that children out there take their lives because of bullying. This needs to stop. If you feel at all inspired or inclined to share this post, I would so greatly appreciate it.

Thank you, jen

Images both found via Google pic art.